I am grateful to still be kicking like the long life battery the end of a long week. Grateful that the husband is getting stronger and using Advil for sleep and pain control after the embolization of his liver. Grateful for his strength and foresight to buy in bulk which makes this time easier, for sure.
I still need to do grocery shopping in addition to other added chores and work but I made it through the week. I am grateful for an administrator who asks, “How my husband is doing?” because in another two weeks, another operation will be underway to remove the remaining tumors on the liver. It is painful to hear my husband recant to his brother over the phone about being awake, tied down during the operation and following the directions of the surgeons as to when to breathe. It is a dangerous operation and leaves one vulnerable. I am grateful for my husband’s pragmatism and hope he has, mostly, passed it along to me.
In the days of healing, I was annoyed at the husband because he pushed the ticket by deciding to have a friend and his helper replace our living room and office floor which was coming up and needed to be replaced. I did not think it was the right time. I went with Michael to the store and we picked out the tile and had it delivered. He was in pain and moving cautiously. His answer, “If not now, when……” I thought the better time would be the summer. In the end, it looks wonderful, and they have one more day before it will be finished. Last night they finished later, and I stayed out doing some grocery shopping and just sitting numbly in front of the library exhausted after a stressful week. I could not go home to face the workmen, a messy displaced objects, etc. I continued texting the husband until they left at 6:00 p.m. I went to bed at 8 p.m. It was a trying week. As for the husband pressing this issue, now that it is near the finale, I agree it will be wonderful but it was challenging to return from a very stressful week to this.
It reminds me of the time my husband pressed for us to buy a home…I did not think the timing was right…I was not sure about living in the area forever and would we be able to afford it….well, he pushed, we did and here we are so many years later. The Super Bowl is in Tampa. I was reminded of it the other day as I was leaving and one of my co-workers wished me a good weekend and then he reminded me of the Super Bowl this Sunday. It seemed like he was almost jumping up and down. I nodded and repeated, “the Super Bowl.” The husband asked me last night, “Was everyone talking about the Super Bowl?”
I remembered, one person was because this is me and sports. But then I figured the husband is getting better all the time! Thanks for listening! Have a great weekend! And then he reminded me this morning that several years after the Kansas City fans came for the Super Bowl, they ended up coming back and living in the Tampa Bay area because they liked the beaches, the people, and the atmosphere. Yeah, things are returning to normal. We just have to be strong and know a little more what to expect for the second operation. But when my husband is talking sports, he is on his way to healing, for sure. As for me, when I talk sports I am speaking the Super Bowl commercials, the music, and the traffic coming this Sunday.
I will still find time for the gym but then again I have a few great new books to read on OverDrive. I must tell you more about them as they take me to new parts of the world, opening my mind, and making this time go faster.
Oh I’m sorry for what you and your husband are having to go through right now. So much of our strength and energy during such stressful times is directed to our mental struggles with worry and fear that it doesn’t leave us with much in our physical reserves to deal with our chores and tasks.
When you do find quiet moments to just sit and stare into space for 15 or 20 minutes, take advantage of them.
Hang in there and all the best to you both!
Yes, that 20 minutes sitting in the car and not going home to workmen although I know the result is fabulous. Exercise also numbs me and my work situation is very good, so it works with flexibility. Thanks. I have to catch up with you as I lost touch as the computer was shut down and moved for redoing the floor.
I am also glad that Mike has some company he trusts this past week and a half to kind of keep watch and keep him involved and lucid. His friend is here helping with the floor and is a good check on things.
Hope the second surgery goes well and your husband is soon on the road to better health.
Thank you. The road is never straight but you have to hang tough for the ride.
Yes you do.
I can really relate to the health challenges and I’m sorry you both are having to go through this. I’m hoping that the 2nd surgery won’t be quite so daunting since you know kinda what’s coming, and hopefully will get through it with good results. You have a great attitude, which helps immensely. Prayers & best wishes.
Thank you so much, Val! I know that you have lived in the Tampa Bay area and are well aware of the challenges. I appreciate this so much. I try to have a good attitude, mostly. It is hard for my husband also to rely on me so much. Thank you, again!!